About Alison

Who Alison is Now

In her words, "I'm passionate about Partnership. I want to know everything about this paradigm – this magic that can happen between people. What makes a partnership possible, what makes one brilliant, what destroys a partnership, what expands the power of partnership. Everything I study and distinguish is to give greater access to the phenomenon of partnership.

"This is why I've spent so much time on male/female and masculine/feminine dynamics. The misunderstandings and misinterpretations between testosterone-based and estrogen-based creatures (usually known as men and women, but not always) devastate lives, destroy families, and put our dreams of love and fulfillment out of reach. And that's just in the personal, romantic domain. Apply these misconceptions to education, work and community, and the real consequences of fundamentally not understanding each other are exponentially worse."

With the publication of The Queen's Code in a digital format, the foundation of Alison's work is now widely available. Men and women fascinated by what they discover in The Queen's Code can benefit by Alison's passion for understanding and partnership through workshops, teleclasses, recordings and articles at www.paxprogramsinc.com.

Alison is a member of the prestigious Transformational Leadership Council and a sought-after speaker in the areas of gender differences, well-being, empowerment, sexuality and relationships.

Her Story
Educator and Advocate

Born in Laguna Beach, California in 1960, Alison Armstrong has been designing and leading transformational programs for adults for over 30 years. In 1995, after four years of studying men for her personal benefit, she created the Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women workshop to share her extraordinary findings with women. With her friend Joan McClain, a banking executive, she founded PAX Programs Incorporated with the mission of "altering society's culture by transforming the way women relate to men."

No stranger to revolutionary initiatives, in 1990, Alison founded the Orange County Summit for Children, a bold project described by the Presiding Judge Briseno of the Orange County Juvenile court as one which, "has forever altered the way children's issues in Orange County are addressed." (LA Times) For 2½ years, Armstrong provided the vision and inspiration in persuading representatives of government agencies, nonprofit organizations, educational institutions and philanthropic foundations to align and cooperate in serving the needs of Orange County, California, children.

As chairperson of the Orange County Homeless Issues Task Force (OCHITF) from 1989 to 1991, Alison Armstrong managed strategic planning and implementation of unique multi-agency projects. She chaired the Task Force Research Committee, creating an unprecedented alignment between Orange County demographers and University of Irvine sociologists to produce and publish a comprehensive study of homelessness in Orange County. During her chairmanship, the OCHITF was named by the Orange County Grand Jury as "the most effective organization addressing homelessness in Orange County."

How did Alison Armstrong get from and being an advocate for the homeless to teaching men and women how to understand and appreciate each other?

"Half the homeless in Orange County are children. And the root of homelessness for many adults lies in childhood – things that didn't happen that should have, like learning to read; and things that shouldn't have happened but did, like abuse. In 1994, my personal compulsion to understand men converged with my personal and professional commitment to children. I realized one of the best ways I can help children is by altering the way their parents relate to each other. By shifting those relationships from the adversarial context we inherited, to the partnerships that are now possible, parents can create home environments in which their children flourish." Alison continued, "We receive wedding announcements and baby pictures with thank you notes saying 'this wouldn't have been possible without your work', and I think they're wonderful. But I am moved to tears when I hear about a family that was restored or a divorce that was prevented."

Is Alison Armstrong a Psychologist?

"I'm asked that a lot," Alison laughs. "Actually, I am a college drop out with an obsession for understanding the way things work. My father is an engineer. I think I inherited his brain but I apply it to people, communication and relationships." Alison occasionally regrets her lack of higher education: "Sometimes I am painfully aware of my ignorance. I don't understand poetry, I've never read the classics, and my geography is terrible." But, she adds, "They don't have degrees for what I want to know. You can get a degree in Women's Studies from many universities but not one offers a program in the study of men!" She notes, "Some of our biggest fans are psychotherapists, for themselves personally and for their patients. They also wish they could have studied in college what we offer." Does Alison ever intend to pursue a degree? "I think about it. I would love to study biological anthropology. Meanwhile, I'll cherish the honorary doctorate I received from 'Prager University,' spontaneous conferred by Dennis Prager of KRLA."

Home and Family

Alison has been married since February 1993 to Greg. "He's my renaissance man. Very masculine, a sport and touring motorcycle rider and car enthusiast, with healing hands, who writes poetry and channels the most divine music." People often comment on her marriage, assuming they must be newlyweds. "Greg and I sometimes make people uncomfortable, although we don't mean to. I just have the worst crush on him. And," she adds with a smile, "Greg says he worships the water I walk on." Greg and Alison live between Los Angeles and their future home in western Colorado. They have three grown children, two daughters and a son.